Are you always doing the chasing?

BREAK THE “RULES” Instead of calling her on Wednesday to make plans for Saturday, try calling her that same morning for an impromptu date. And instead of waiting two days after that to call again, surprise her earlier... or wait a little longer. In other words, don’t be too predictable with your phone calls; instead, mix things up.

TEASE HER Would you like to keep her wanting more? Try this for a change: Plant a big, fiery kiss on her — and then call it a night. It will serve two purposes: First, it will keep you on her mind. Second, since you’re the one to end the kiss and the evening, it will keep her wanting for more.

DON’T BE TOO AVAILABLE If she suggests getting together on Friday, suggest Saturday. If she wants Sunday, suggest Tuesday. It will give the impression that you have a healthy social life.

YOU END THE CALL The first few phone calls tend to determine the way a relationship will proceed. So after the conversation has run its course, politely end it and say goodbye. Using this trick just a couple of times will put you back in charge.

LET HER DO SOME WORK If you are always the one calling and pursuing her, she probably has you on your toes most of the time. To reverse the roles, you need to let her do some of the work. Indicate this by your actions: At the end of the night, tell her to call you and stick to your guns. Yes, that means waiting for her to call.