How to avoid post-marital humdrum?

Marriage is something that needs constant nurturing because after the initial first year mundane reality takes over and romance takes a backseat. And if you are into your career you have had it. You tend to become more concerned about bettering your career than your relationship. That’s the time you end up doing things unconsciously that can have an adverse effect on your lives. Here are a few things that you often end up doing but try and avoid doing it.

NIGHT OUTS AND HOLIDAYS MEAN HANGING AROUND WITH FRIENDS:

Dating was fun pre-marriage, the fun lasted till the honeymoon but after that it’s usually hanging around in groups and hitting the nightspots or going out for a weekend drive. Even long holidays are planned long beforehand so that all friends can join in. Stop that immediately! You need to spend leisure with each other. At least plan a holiday for the two of you once a year or make a weekend trip together. That helps you to talk and bond.

GOING HOME EMPTY-HANDED:

If both of you are into jobs then chances are that you have to hang out with your office group post work hours. When one spouse is already home, the call that you would you be out late and won’t have dinner at home, does not always go down smoothly on the other end of the phone. The same goes for you. You might not like it if your spouse is out with office colleagues at least three times a week. But if you are hitting a good restaurant carry the choicest dish home. Small gestures count.