Dealing with Your Teenage Anger

Think about someone who has hated you at some time in your life - a family member, a schoolmate, or anyone else. Even though you might be uncomfortable when you are around that person, you give it little thought when he or she isn't near you. No matter how concentrated that person's feelings, it really doesn't affect you much. Same for you - when you hate someone, it only impact you. As weird as it sounds, you must learn to let the hate go.

Inspect your feelings. What did that person do? What do you feel must be done to "fix" the situation so you can feel better? If the only way things can be fixed is to cause hurt, pain, or death to others - then this solution is not practical - you have to keep thinking of another solution!

Seek help if important. If you cannot get past your hate and you begin to plan on what you can do to get even - this is a warning signal that your trouble is getting bigger than you.

Look where you fit in. Find a lifestyle that take you for who you are without judging you - such as goth, Barbie, punk, Chavette, punk, or nerd, biker, or Saved - wherever you feel you fit in.

Understand that it is OK to be angry; both authenticate how you feel. How you deal with hate is what is essential!

Think about who you harm when you hate. It may be hard to understand but the only person who is hurt is yourself.